Week 7- Turn Toward One Another

“Wherefore, be not weary in well-doing, for ye are laying the foundation of a great work. And out of small things proceedeth that which is great.”- D&C 64:33

Turning toward one another in marriage can be hard at times, it is easy to want to turn inward and think about your feelings. Yet if we listen to this scripture it teaches us a lot about turning toward one another.

Be not weary in well-doing- sometimes turning toward one another can be tiring, sometimes we would rather relax than do something for our spouse. But if we are not weary and do the little things constantly that is what will build our marriage.

Ye are laying the foundation of a great work- doing the little things for our spouse is what builds the big things. If you are constantly working on the little things, the big things won’t be as hard. When there is a disagreement, you will already have a positive sentiment override and it will be easier to get over.

Out of small things proceedeth that which is great- Out of these little acts our marriages will thrive. In Gottmans book we learn about how turning toward one another is better for a marriage than a two week get away to the Bahamas. This is because small acts that we do everyday to show our spouse that we love them and cherish them is what will bring romance to our marriages.

Although I am not the perfect example of turning toward my spouse, I do try very hard. When I make him lunches I try to leave cute notes or funny inside jokes in his lunch box. When he is unwinding and playing a video game after we put the baby to bed and asks if I want to play with him, although sometimes I would rather just relax I play. I play because it means something to him and it helps me show interest in what he is interested in. And honestly, I’ve started to enjoy it and have fun.

Christ is the perfect example in all things, even marriage. Although we don’t know if he was ever married he taught us to serve, love unconditionally, and always look for the good in others. This is what we need to do in a marriage. The more Christ-like we strive to be the more Christ-like love we will have for our spouse. There’s a really famous saying that goes around about how a marriage is a triangle. God is at the top and the husband and wife are at either corner, the closer you draw to God the closer the husband and wife become.